The Tao of You
The One-Day, Do-It-Yourself Success Manual
by: Dr J. Kyle Howard
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I am sitting in a quiet room overlooking the ocean in Virginia Beach reading the manuscript of "The Tao of You". The sun is beginning to rise, it’s late July 2002, and I’m listening to the desperate sounds of a life-or-death struggle going on just a few feet away.
There’s this weird looking little bug burning out the last of its short life in an unsuccessful attempt to fly through the glass of the patio door. The buzzing wings and constant crashing into the glass tells the sad story of the bug’s strategy—“try harder”. But it’s not working.
The frenzied effort offers no hope for survival. Ironically, the struggle is part of the trap. It is impossible for this bug to try hard enough to succeed at breaking through the glass. Nevertheless, this little insect has staked its life on reaching its goal through raw effort and determination.
This bug is doomed. It is inevitable – it will die right there at the patio door. Ironically, about a foot away, the other door is open. Two seconds of flying time and this small creature could reach the outside world it so desperately seeks. With only a fraction of the effort now being wasted, it could be free.
Why doesn’t the little fella try another approach, something dramatically different? How did it get so locked in on the idea that this particular route with determined effort offers the most promise for success? What logic is there in continuing until death, to seek a magic-like solution with “more of the same effort”? No doubt this approach makes sense to him. Regrettably, it’s an idea that will cost him his life.
Someone once told me that God is always talking to us and teaching us lessons if only we would look and listen. In this instance, the little bug is demonstrating that in order for things to change, you have to change. If your life isn’t working the way you want and you’re in need of a miraculous change, then you’re going to have to do things differently. Actually, you will have to BE different.
What if I could have communicated with that bug to show him the way out? He would have thought it was a miracle and it would have been because his life would have drastically changed. He would return to his bug colony to tell his little bug friends that I saved his life. They would have erected a statue of me and I would have been known in the entire bug world as a savior. Well, at least until I swatted one of his cousins.
I tried to tell him to try the other door, but I haven’t mastered the art of bug communication. I can, however, communicate with you. I am willing to bet that, like this bug, your patio door is a few feet away but yours is called “bad luck”, “dis-ease”, “financial problems”, or “stress”. You keep flapping there at the glass door of your life, buzzing away in vain, looking for that miracle that will free you and looking for some good luck or a successful change for once in your life.
This manual is your way out. It’s a one day, do-it-yourself workshop, designed to produce an overnight miracle in your life.
Do you believe in overnight miracles? I certainly hope so. Do you think that in order to be successful in this life you have to plod along slowly, work very hard, and try to be optimistic? Not so with this manual.
Do you hope that everything will be ok someday? If you are like me then you probably read one self-help book after another. Each time you pick up a new book you raise your hopes a little, and you may even feel a little inspired after reading it. Yet in a few days or weeks, you are looking around for another book because you have that uneasy feeling in your stomach that nothing has really changed for you. It is quite possible that at this point now in your life you may have given up on the idea that anything will ever really change for you.
Well, this is not just another self-help book. This is not a book to help you feel a little better, or have your life go a little smoother, or help you understand yourself a little more. This book is designed to produce absolutely nothing less than a miracle in your life, overnight! And, we will accomplish this despite you.
How can I make such a bold statement?
Back in 1989, I was beyond hopeless. I checked into a motel ready to end it all. Here I was a complete failure at everything I had ever tried.
I had a library of self-help books (about 67 of them), I tried positive affirmations, I tried multiple churches and multiple religions, I tried chanting, prayer, walking on hot coals, trying to get “in touch” with myself, I even went to a psychic and the only thing she relieved me of was my hard-earned money.
If there was a method of achieving success, I was willing to try it, but nothing seemed to work for me. I desperately needed to know who I was, what was I doing here, and why was I living such a wretched life.
Deep down inside, I knew that life offered me more than what I was seeing. I wanted magic – a magical way – simplified and honest, not void of earth’s natural limits – but a bona fide, time tested, and simple way to leave a life of lack and easily step into the world of abundance and success.
It meant working for myself and doing something I loved doing.
As a last ditch effort, I decided that I was going to do this one thing before I took my last breath. I was reluctant at first, but I followed through with it anyway. At this point in my life, what did I have to lose?
What I discovered in that motel room was that I, like most people, had two lives: the one that I was currently living – desperate, broke, uninspired, a complete failure at everything including relationships; and the other life – abundant, wealthy, loved, healthy, and successful.
I had already mastered failure, but now the “key” to my success was sitting right there staring me in the face. I was now so excited that I could hardly sleep. I could not believe that I was almost ready to end it all.
The next morning I walked out of that room head held high, chest out like I had just won the lottery and people started to look at me differently. People were friendlier, more respectful towards me. Life now had possibility and I knew that I could turn my life into whatever I wanted.
What does this have to do with my purpose?
One of the things that I discovered in that room was that my life had no purpose to it. I was asking the question of "why am I here?" There simply had to be more to life than what I was seeing and I felt like I was worthy of more. But until I figured out what my purpose was and how to live it, nothing would ever change.
I truly believed that I was intelligent enough to succeed in life but there simply had to be something that I was missing. But what was it?
Well, that night I found it.
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