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Ask J - February, 2009


Question: Hello Dr. J. Kyle. I hope you post this because there are many people suffering from this right now with the economy being as it is.

My question to you is two-fold:

  1. I have recently (last week) received notice that my position at the company that I've worked for over the last 11 years will be discontinued. My heart weeps now at the thought of packing up years of my life at this company and full of fear as I now have to figure out what next to do with my life.

  2. I have been doing the same thing for so long, how do I change? The last thing in the world I want to do is go back to college with a bunch of teenagers or have some teacher 10 years younger than me try to tell me about how the world works.

Help Me! - Susan N., Wichita, KS.


Answer: Hello Susan,

I know that these are financially difficult times that we currently find ourselves in. My intention is not to oversimplify the response to your question but I strongly believe in simplicity in all things.

I have two words for you - "Cognitive Dissonance". You see you know that you must do something else. No use in focusing on what you used to do. You, if you intend on living a lifestyle of your choosing, must do something different. Yet, you have already placed roadblocks ahead of you to avoid changing.

What does it matter the age of the information giver as long as the information helps you?

Susan, life has presented you with a unique opportunity to do something different. You've gained some interesting insight and experience over the last 11 years. These years were for nothing. There is someone out there right now that could use your help. It is time to dust yourself on, let the past job go, and move forward

Start here. I am quite sure that there is something you've always wanted to do but were either too busy, afraid, or stuck in the habit of your former 9 to 5 to try it.

When the option of retreat has been taken away, your only choices then are to stay put or move forward. In the end, It's Up To You!

Also consider letting the anger go. If you want to scream or cry go ahead and have your tantrum. Get it out of your system. You will feel much better. As far as being afraid, it's ok. I am not telling you to not be afraid. Embrace your fear but feed it courage. Move on despite it.



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